Imagine your life as a mom. You have beautiful children that are loving and kind. It’s chaotic but in the best way possible. It’s full of joy, love, and disorderly days that you will never forget.
If you are imagining this, it is because you are unsure of what motherhood and all its flaws truly looks like. You are a woman, not yet a mother, envisioning what becoming a mom will look like.
Becoming Mom
The moment a child is born, a mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman did, but the mother, never. Becoming a mother is something so extraordinarily new. Its uniqueness transcends you into somewhere you’ve never been.
Constantly, you are caught between who you are now and who you are going to become. Be proud of where you are and realize how you got there.
Never lose sight of your path and where your goals are going to take you because of comparison to others. You’re always going to be at a different season in life than others you’re comparing yourself to. So, stop comparing yourself.
Enjoy where you are now. Focus on your goals and where you are eventually planning to end up.
When You Know. You Know
While going through traditional phases in life such as developing a relationship to grow a family. I constantly loved the thought of raising children. I had a wonderful childhood full of affection and adventure. So, instilling the same childhood experiences in my little one is something I look forward to.
Nowadays, women have such strong opinions on motherhood.
Of course, there is a strong respect for mothers from most women. There are also so many other feelings towards it.
The way you view motherhood is more than likely based on how you were raised. I always knew I wanted to be a mom mainly because mine was incredible at it. She made our childhood so full of love, that it was contagious.
Allowing your children to grow up in the role of mom and child responsibilities and expectations, shapes your little ones. These children become caring and want to raise a child of their own; history repeats itself. Acknowledging the relationship with a mom, caring for her baby, with so much passion is something that you would carry with you in most cases.
Growing up, I hoped I would enter motherhood very early in life because I couldn’t wait. I couldn’t wait, to be able to nurture and care for a tiny little bundle of my own. Respectively so, I had been caring for others little ones for years, I was quite certain that I wanted to raise children.
Motherly Instincts
Whole heartily, more than anything, I wanted to become a mother. To the women like me, I am so glad there are so many people who want to raise babies. To love, nurture, educate them and enjoy it as much as I do.
Having a motherly instinct is a good representation of how you feel about raising a child of your own. In my early twenties with no children, I constantly was the overpacking, overprepared, snacks in my bag type of gal on any adventure.
My point is, that motherhood has changed me but my motherly personality has always been the same. I want to always have something or someone to constantly care for because it fills me with enjoyment to help others.
To Be or Not To Be
Considering becoming a mom is such a huge decision because it is life-changing. You must know and understand the commitment you are making.
Some women know they want to become a mom right from the start. Some will never have the desire to raise children. Others, simply are unsure. Whatever you choose, is what is meant to be for you.
What I know is, that being loved by your child is the most extraordinary thing that has ever happened to me. It is real, true love that fills you with great pleasure.
To the ready women. I encourage you to think about the day-to-day, knowing that it will be filled with flaws but also this magical bliss you’ve never experienced.
To the unsure women, ask yourself about this
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Do you find joy in being around children?
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Do you enjoy hearing and learning about pregnancy?
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Do you offer to hold/ watch other people’s kids?
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Do you educate yourself on pregnancy and raising babies?
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Have you already thought about your first unborn child’s name?
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Are you in a committed relationship in which you adore your partner?
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Do you look at the baby section while shopping?
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Does your partner imagine having a child?
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Do you have a comfortable home to bring a child into?
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Do you feel like something is missing?
To the women who don’t want to have children, I see you and respect your choice to love you without question. Live life to the fullest for you and your accomplishments. Enjoy your decision and never feel pressured or discomfort if you are confident with your decision.
To Be
Parenting is the most important role you can play in another human’s life. You can choose the way your little one explores the world each day. Learning and applying skills they have developed from you, to help them navigate their way through growing up.
If you are a dedicated, caring, strong, nurturing woman and have considered having a baby and are ready. My advice to you is to peruse it; is it such an incredible journey to be able to shape another human’s life in becoming commendable, respectable people that make a difference in our world.
Becoming a mother is the ultimate sacrifice. It is scary and hard to navigate, a messy and selfless role to take on but I wouldn’t change a thing.
As a mom, I have become the most authentic version of myself. It encourages you to become a better person. You have patience and kindness about you, that you never would have tapped into without becoming a parent.
It is impossible to imagine the love a mother can have towards her child until you become one. You grow your child inside of you for almost a year. For a mother, this is primal love.
Motherhood
I believe I was truly made to become a mother.
Life as a mom, even with its flaws, is pure joy. Creating memories, traditions, and a strong bond with your family means building a legacy to pass down for generations.
New moms like me, love yourself every day. Find time for yourself, to be the best version of yourself for your family.
Moms of children grown, I commend you for your years of devotion, sacrifice, and hard work. Thank you for leading us in this thing we call motherhood.
Moms to an unborn child just waiting for their time. Please know it is coming. Have faith that what is meant to be, will be. Share stories, connect with others in the same season of life, and allow their motivation to keep you hopeful.
Motherhood is said to be the process of locating women’s identities in their capacities to nurture children. Moms, in any situation, are leaders of their own families that want to connect to, learn and educate themselves to be the best they can be.
Consider motherhood and the beauty it beholds.
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